Weddings at Old St. Paul's
We are delighted that you are considering Old Saint Paul’s for the celebration of your marriage! Christian theology understands marriage to be a sacramental event, and outward and visible sign of an inward and visible grace. The Episcopal Book of Common Prayer states that marriage is a sign of the “mystery of the union between Christ and Christ’s Church” (page 422). In other words, not only will your marriage witness to your life-long love for one another, it will offer the world a glimpse of God’s unfailing love for all of us.
Therefore, at Old Saint Paul’s we understand the decision about where to get marriage to be about much more than choosing a beautiful building. Christian marriage is an intentional decision to make your faith the context of your commitment to each other, and to allow God to play a central role in your relationship.
Our clergy and staff desire to support you in your decision, to help you prepare for a joyful and lasting marriage, and to walk with you as you continue to grow together on your Christian journey.
Wedding arrangements begin with conversation. Please call the church office to speak with the Rev. Mark Stanley, rector of the parish. Below is some general information to get you started.
Who may be married at Old St. Paul’s?
To be married in the Episcopal Church, at least one of the parties must be a baptized Christian. The marriage must be attested by at least two witnesses and conform to the laws of the state and the canons of the church. At Old St. Paul’s we hope that you would be active participants in the life and worship of the congregation, and that your marriage would be lived out within the context of this, or another, Christian community.
What are the specific requirements for being married at Old St. Paul’s?
To help support you in a loving, life-long relationship, the Episcopal Church requires pre-marital preparation for all couples being married in the church. Most often, pre-marital counseling sessions (three minimum) are scheduled with your officiating priest. Other options, such as pastoral counseling services or retreats, are also available. Speak with your officiating priest to work out a pre-marital program that will be most beneficial for you.
The wedding service and vows are taken from the 1979 Book of Common Prayer. We encourage couples preparing for marriage at Old St. Paul’s to regularly participate in worship, to actively explore our Christian formation and ministry opportunities, and to consider making a financial contribution to the church through an annual pledge.
Are there special requirements for marriage after divorce?
If either party is divorced, at least one year must have elapsed between the final divorce decree and the date of marriage. Additionally, permission for remarriage must be obtained by the officiating priest from the Bishop of Maryland upon completion of the pre-marital sessions. Specific requirements may be discussed with the officiating priest.
How are wedding arrangements made?
Weddings are scheduled based on the availability of the church and the officiating clergy. Most often weddings are celebrated on Saturdays, no later than 6 p.m. Generally weddings are not performed between Thanksgiving and Christmas or during the month before Easter. Begin by calling the church office.
For the specifics of planning, you will receive a detailed wedding packet that includes outlines to help you plan the service as well as fees and guidelines. If you need help along the way, please speak with your officiating priest.